Perils of Negative Thinking

Kekich Credo #65 - Bitterness, jealousy and anger empower your enemies and enslave you. Negative thinking results in the destruction of property. It is anti-property, therefore anti-capitalistic and anti-life. It also erodes your health. Forgive, learn your lessons, and get on with your life.

Are you bitter, jealous or angry? These are all examples of negative thinking that erodes your health and well-being.

Bitterness is defined as anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly.  A person who is bitter is angry and unhappy because they cannot forget bad things that happened in the past. In psychology, it is an emotional state of feeling let down and not being able to do anything about it.  

A bitter person holds a grudge and they are always complaining.  They are not grateful for the good things in their life and they want only bad things for those who have hurt them. They are jealous of anything good that happens to others and they are unable to share in someone else’s joy.

Jealousy is a feeling of unhappiness caused by wanting what someone else has. Jealousy may be driven by low self-esteem or a poor self-image. If you don’t feel confident, it can be hard to believe others value you. Sometimes jealousy can be caused by unrealistic expectations. A jealous person will try to make you feel bad about yourself and undermine your successes by making them seem less important.

Here are some ways to cope with jealousy.  Trace it back to its source.  Examine what is the root of your feelings.  Talk to a trusted friend.  Voice your concerns and consider the full picture.  Practice gratitude for what you have and practice in-the-moment coping techniques.

The third negative feeling is anger.  Feelings of anger are due to how we interpret and react to situations.  Showing strong annoyance, displeasure or hostility is triggered by situations in which we feel threatened or attacked, frustrated or powerless.  It usually develops in our response to the unwanted actions of another person who we think is being disrespectful, demeaning, threatening or neglectful.  

How can we control our anger?  The first thing is to think before you speak.  Take time out. Once you are calm, express your concerns.  Go for some exercise.  Look for some possible solutions.  Use statements with ‘I’ rather than ‘You’.  Don’t hold a grudge and use humour to release tension.

This credo statement says these feelings of bitterness, jealousy and anger create negative thoughts that cause you to think negatively about yourself.  The common negative messages that people repeat over and over to themselves include:  ‘I am a loser,’ ‘I can never do anything right,’ and ‘No one would ever like me’.  A negative person is defined as someone who tends to think and speak in a way that focuses on all the bad things about themselves or situations.  

If any of these things describe you, I hope you will listen to the last statement in this credo.  Forgive, learn your lessons, and get on with your life.  Be a positive person. Be thankful for the good things in your life.  People will be happy to be around you.

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